Entries for July, 2005

July 20th, 2005

Top 5 Tips Cunnilingus Tips

Posted by alongtheway at 06:16 PM on July 20, 2005.

1. Start slow

Don't be in a hurry to attack her clit. Kiss, nibble, and suck on her mouth, her breasts, her thighs. Like any sex act, she needs to be relaxed and ready before you start getting serious. Even when you do make it down there, kiss and lick and suck on all of her, not just her clit. Her labia need attention too, and many women love having a tongue pushed up inside of them.
2. Find the clit

You need to find the spot near or on her clit that is "just right" for her, the area that, with every flick of your tongue, sends surges of pleasure through her body. No, we're not going to draw you a picture, or describe a roadmap. The best way to find it is simply to ask her. Each woman is slightly different in how she wants to be stimulated, so tell her to give you guidance as your explore her nether regions.
Note: some women find direct clitoral stimulation too intense. You need to communicate to find the way to stimulate her best.
3. Relax your tongue
Many men tense up their tongues and flick the tip furiously against her clit. That's all wrong. A relaxed tongue will do the trick better, using the broad flat part, whether you flick it or just bob your head.
4. Use your hands

Your hands are free, so use them! A little finger-fucking is a great complement to clitoral stimulation. You can also caress her labia, lubed up with her own juices, of course. If you're an adventuresome couple, even try putting a finger or two up her ass. However, be careful not to put them anywhere near the vagina after that. A pair of latex gloves and water-based lube will definitely come in handy.
5. Get down to business

Once you've gotten her excited and figured out her hot spots, it's time to get down to business. Flick your tongue with a steady rhythm over her clit. Don't stop, and don't change the rhythm. That's the key to making her come: patience and a steady stroke. Don't vary things too much, and for goodness sake, don't ask her "did you come yet?" Let her fall naturally into an intense, mind-blowing orgasm.

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Lasting Longer

Posted by alongtheway at 06:29 PM on July 20, 2005.

The first principle behind the techniques and suggestions listed below is the man’s ability to know his own body. By understanding how his body works and how his excitement rises, he should be able to learn how to pace himself better. It is key to know when to slow down to allow your excitement to drop enough so that you can “re-group” and then pick up the pace again. The second principle has to do with decreasing the sensitivity of the penis. By decreasing the sensitivity, it will take more stimulation to achieve the excitement necessary for climax. The following techniques and suggestions should help boost his sexual stamina, but they are not miracle cures, it will take patience and the right attitude to make things better.

Start & Stop Technique

The primary principle of this technique is to stimulate the penis until near ejaculation, and then stop stimulating to allow the level of excitement to drop. This exercise can be performed alone, or with a partner, and should be repeated 3 to 5 times per session. After 2-6 weeks of using this technique you should notice an improvement in your sexual stamina and will eventually not even have to use it to outlast your partner.

Squeeze Technique

Right before you feel you are about to ejaculate, approximately three or four strokes away, stop stimulating and squeeze the base of your penis by wrapping your thumb and index finger around it. Apply firm pressure, focusing on the urethra, the tube running along the underside of the penis. This lessens the tension and holds back the ejaculatory response. Be sure to apply pressure a few strokes before ejaculating … if you wait too long, it may be too late! You should be able to apply this technique anywhere along the shaft of the penis, as long as it squeezes the urethra.

Regular Masturbation

A great method for boosting sexual stamina and releasing sexual tension is regular masturbation. By masturbating more often, you can train yourself to become more used to the stimulation. As you get more and more used to it, it should start taking you progressively longer to climax.

Sex Toys

Following the same line of logic as in “Regular Masturbation” above, you can use sex toys to help you become more “immune” to the pleasure. Sex simulators are recommended over regular vibrators, but both should work. The Robo Suck 2 is a great toy that can bring the best of men to their knees; it sucks, strokes, and vibrates all at once. If the $65 (USD) price tag is a little too much, have a look at our toy store to find a product that fits your budget better.